Will my child be traumatized?

Research has shown that children that sleep well, with limited bedtime problems and night-waking problems, are better adjusted and better behaved and do better overall than their counterparts. One study showed that those children between the ages of two and three who had bedtime problems were more likely have a whole spectrum of behaviour and psychological problems. That is, they were more likely to be aggressive and non-compliant. They were also likely to appear withdrawn or depressed. You are actually helping your child by doing sleep training as sleeping is a life skill. Children who sleep well are well adjusted and have fewer overall problems.

Am I a bad parent?

A bad parent is somebody who does not provide for or abuses her child. A good parent takes care of her children’s needs and does the right thing. Teaching your child how to fall asleep on their own is doing the right thing. Part of being a good parent means sometimes having to do the hard stuff and that can include teaching your child how to fall asleep independently.

Will this cause my child harm?

As long as you provide your child with a lot of attention during the day, your baby will not be harmed by letting them cry at bedtime. A small part of dealing with sleep problems may involve your baby crying, but the major component is teaching your child to be a self-soother and how to put themselves to sleep.

Will this affect my child’s attachment to me?

There has been a great deal of research over the past decade on the importance of infant-parent attachment. A few studies have assessed the impact of sleep training on attachment and have found that young children are more securely attached to their parents following sleep training.

Will my child still love me in the morning?

Don’t worry, your child will still love you in the morning. They are not upset with you personally when they are crying at night, they simply want to fall asleep. The next morning they will be as happy to see you as always.

Can we do sleep training while my child is teething?

Yes, as long as we eliminate the pain and fever associated with teething a child can still learn to self-soothe.

“Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep” - Jodi A Mindell, Ph.D. “Sleep Guide for Babies and Toddlers” - Erica Neser